My hair has been graying for some time. Coloring over the gray was bothering me so I stopped. I tried to have a stylist help blend it in the meantime. It wasn’t really working. Then after my hair was so dead from all of the bleaching, I decided to start over and have it cut into a pixie bob which is very short. It looked better but I still had golden ends and gray roots. I had the idea of blending in some blue high lights to break it up, on my own, without involving a stylist. When I rinsed my hair out and looked in the mirror, I had created a head full of fuzzy light green hair. Never to be defeated, I marched myself to the store and got some black dye and became an Elizabeth Tayloresque black haired beauty again.
I have a history of creating obstacles for myself. Not doing oil changes resulting in a dead car in college. Dating and marrying men that were clearly bad choices resulting in having to rebuild my life over and over again. Adopting a Dalmatian not researching what the care of that breed involves resulting in having to take 3 hour walks everyday just to give it the minimum exercise needed.
My friends and family reading this now are thinking of even better examples of how I have messed up in life. Some of those stories are funny. Many of them were far from funny at the time.
Even if you do everything right, bad things will happen to you at some time. Our response to these obstacles is all that remains in our control.
I just inherited a farm that needs work. I didn’t plan on being in my parent’s property at this time of my life trying to make choices about the care and eventual sale of this farm. My mantra has been to just make it a little better every day. Make it pretty and see what happens. I don’t know if I will have a buyer at the price that I need in order to sell it or if I will be a farmer for years to come. The outcome is not within reach. My response in the present is what I have.
There is a method to my madness. I have made lists and keep making lists of boss moves I can do to make this place better. Next I evaluate what the pay off will be for each move.Finally, I choose to put the majority of my energy and financial backing into that move. Once I finish, I look at my list again and see what the next reasonable move should be. In summary, list, evaluate, make a move, go back to the list. If you do this, over time, your goals will be completed, you will have a sense of accomplishment, and today’s obstacles will be tomorrow’s memories. Don’t worry though, you will have other obstacles to keep you from getting bored.
Have fun making boss moves today and enjoy the journey as much as you can!